Speak the Language

I hate different personalities because knowing how to communicate with another person is like learning another language. However, the world would be a very dull place if everyone had the same personality.

"How come your brother does not listen like you do, Michael?" My mom wondered.

"I don't know. Maybe because he is not as smart?" I replied.

It was determined, after having meetings with many of my clients, that in order to convey an idea to each individual child, adults need to speak in a way that the children find familiar. We understand "logic," children do not. Thus, conveying an idea to promote good behaviors needs to be catered according to each child's personality.

Yes, parents might need to communicate differently between siblings.

Let's talk about Social Behavior Types based on Merrill & Reid's Method.


  • Objective-focused

  • Know what they want and how to get there!

  • Communicates quickly, gets to the point

  • Sometimes tactless and brusque

  • Can be an "ends justify the means" type of person

  • Hardworking, high energy

  • Does not shy away from conflict